What does therapy offer?

Therapy offers a confidential & professional service, which is private - we work collaboratively together & with respect.

What does creativity offer?

Creativity offers an amazing space to work with the unconscious and conscious which may be stuck or challenging to wok with verbally & cognitively. The integration of creativity into therapy sessions comes as a potent tool for encouraging & promoting comprehensive well-being. It facilitates transformative change in our lives that sometimes talking therapies can`t reach.

When words fall short, creativity often steps in to bridge the gap. Quiet time, creativity, nature & other alternate therapies can serve as a powerful tool in the therapeutic process. It allows individuals to explore their inner world, communicate & process complex emotions, & achieve a sense of relief or clarity, to then be able to move forward.

Mind & Body together

This helps us to become more aware of how our thoughts & the meaning we give them show up in the body & then show up in our behaviour.

Would you like to wake up your senses, reconnect & create a sense of harmony, no matter what is going on in your life?

Using our 5 senses we can `wake up` & more deeply connect & listen to the messages which can sometimes be missed.

Differentiation focuses on helping you to tolerate anxiety while facing issues head on & all the while improving your ability to self soothe. This repairs, heals and allows you to be free & authentic. It also involves improving your ability to hold onto your sense of self while maintaining the relationship that is in front of you. This also requires you to be able to balance your needs, while sitting in a difficulty, whether that is with some else or a situation - this helps us keep our autonomy & relationship with ourself & others in balance.

Awakening to Reality:

The cherry blossom tree has to shed it`s flowers & old leaves to be able to grow new ones next year - letting go can be challenging.

Our internal landscape can dictate our behaviour, often without us consciously realising it. So when we are able to really wake up, we learn what serves us well - practice what nourishes you, rather than what depletes you. We can choose which path to be on = the success or failure path.

Our thoughts can hold us victim to our past experiences & then we can stuck in them.

The conditioned mind: We perceive the world through our lens, through our experiences our brains developed - we have the option to awaken from our minds past construction. What was learnt, can be unlearnt & we can relearn new. As the saying goes - what fires, wires, meaning what you are thinking creates your pathways. When you change habits, your brain rewires. So we can learn to be selective, because the mind wants to go back to what is familiar, which isn`t always what we want going forwards.

Become your own master to yourself - acting with loving kindness & generosity to ones own needs, can help us to make better choices.

The Work:

Its not easy to go through therapy, &, keep going……… but the rewards are amazing. We often shy away from the deeper work because its uncomfortable, but, when we pause & see through the smoke screen, then, we are often encouraged to keep going.

We can peel the layers off, that no longer serve you well, or align with where, or who you wish to be, or go. (The mind can sometimes reflect the scar, every time you do something different, you are building new and different for your life moving forwards. )

We often seem to chase things to try to be happy, only to find they give limited happiness & then quickly it goes. Clinging is natural, but unhelpful - let`s practice to let go & then move on freer.

Therapy can help to unravel, see past the smoke screen, change patterns, & the stories in our heads, so that we can rewrite our future.

When we have a near death experience, it often wakes us up, it gives us a second chance.

When we see well - we choose well.

Life can sometimes hold up a mirror for our awakening if we are ready to see.

The moment in front of us is the only moment we have to make a choice, a different choice which serves us well.

If the past calls, let it go to voicemail, coz it has nothing new to say :) & in therapy we have space to work through this & turn it into our gift.

When we`ve had trauma we often get stuck in the pain (unprocessed material) & stay stuck in the distress, then the body reacts to this - it can become a vicious circle. Lets end the struggles and circles/cycles.

Moving beyond

Moving beyond trauma can be a journey of self discovery to find your self underneath what has been embodied. Deciding to work through your past trauma takes courage & a willingness to show up for yourself. We will go on a journey together, exploring many angles & using many different techniques to overcome your past & help you live more freely in the now.

“I am a collection of all my life, all of my life’s experiences, all of my trainings, including all of the teachers who have impacted me along the way, nothing is separate from the other”, Sharon Mills.

Love/Rage, Pleasure/Pain, Happy/Sad, black/white - opposites are interesting to understand & linked to doing inner work, they can help to show the way to what is still unknown, or pushing us to act out…….. Let`s wake up to some of the mysteries of life.

We often keep falling into old patterns and then become hard on ourselves - we will work on seeing these patterns more deeply and clearly so that we are able to cross over the pavement and not fall in each time.

“I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It's a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.”
―Portia Nelson, There's a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery

Thoughts:

I often get clients coming having done lots of past therapy & yet still struggling for deeper, longer lasting change. Sometimes we can get stuck in the past where something was overwhelming & we weren’t able to process it fully, therefore not able to move on. By revisiting the difficult moment, we are able to free this up, see our blind spots & free up the `stuckness`.

There is a saying in Buddhism “No mud, no lotus.” The lotus flower blossoms in the mud, opening up and blossoming there in the mud. Finding inner bliss & peace while we may come from muddy places.

Finding our infinite treasure from deep inside of us helps us to set ourselves free and live an authentic life …………….

“Trauma is not what happens to you. Trauma is what happens inside you, as a result of what happens to you.”

— Gabor Maté

Differentiation is the ability to balance the autonomy and the attachment so it is not an either/or. The ability to not be caught up in our childhood drama when the triggers in the now, trigger something from the past – being free to respond in the now.

“Stagnation is the foundation of all pathology”, The yellow emerpor`s classic of medicine, by Maoshing N.I.